Analee Gale

The Big O: Who has it better?

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One Australian study has reached a climax in deciding which gender experiences the better orgasm. O, I need a cigarette.

 

 

We don’t need a formal study to know that the arousal process differs significantly for men and women – but when it comes to the actual orgasm, whose experience is better? This age-old question is on everybody’s lips at the moment, so we peeled back the cover on some global research from AsapSCIENCE to see if we could arouse a definitive answer as to “Who has a better orgasm – males or females?”

What we immediately learned from our deep dive into the Big O was that there are many similarities in how those fireworks actually feel for men and women. For example, researchers asked college students of both genders to explain how an orgasm feels. After removing any words that specifically referred to genitalia, they were left with an orgy of very similar words, suggesting that males and females feel a very similar experience during their apogee. This may be because irrespective of whether you stand or sit to pee, an identical physiological process occurs in both genders in order for that climax to occur.

Another similarity is the ability of both men and women to enjoy multiple orgasms. Due to these little beauts typically lacking a refractory period, they have long been identified as women’s only business; however, in recent times it has been discovered that men can also enjoy in these repeated pleasures. Historically, male orgasms were thought only to occur simultaneously with ejaculation, but research has confirmed that before or after ejaculation, men are capable of non-ejaculatory orgasms.

AsapSCIENCE also identified that post-O, both men and women experience a distinct feeling of drowsiness, which is attributed to a surge in the hormone called prolactin. Now, interestingly, if you have a busy schedule planned post-coitus, then you may like to consider “finishing yourself off” because science has shown that four times the amount of that drowsy-inducing hormone is released after intercourse, compared to the amount released after an orgasm achieved via masturbation.

By now you’re forgiven for thinking that perhaps males and females do have a similar experience when it comes to climactic fervour. However, let’s now take a quick perve at the differences.

A national Australian study exploring heterosexual sex found that women tend to experience orgasms less often than men (69% versus 95% of all sexual encounters), but when they do get there, the actual climax itself goes for longer (20+ seconds for females versus 3 to 10 seconds for males).

Interestingly, the type of sex you’re engaging in was also found to contribute to your climactic experience. For example, one study revealed that while the rate of orgasm among straight and gay men was similar, the rate of orgasm for women varied significantly by sexual orientation. Straight women reportedly have around 12% fewer orgasms than gay women; 25% of who indicated they climaxed in 100% of instances. What’s more, 50% of gay women suggested they orgasmed in more than 75% of their sexual encounters. And if that’s not enough to make you admire the tribe, lesbians were found to engage in sex for an average duration of 30 to 45 minutes, compared to a meagre 15 to 30 minutes of sexual activity by straight women.

Whether women will or won’t get there was also found to be influenced by genetics, with one study involving twins suggesting that the genetic makeup of women can predict one-third of the likelihood of whether or not she will climax during sex.

Of course, when you think about it, men and women are physiologically designed to have similar experiences, and the orgasm is no exception. Being part of your partner’s orgasm typically enhances your own climactic experience, and this is no coincidence. We need to be able to understand and relate to each other, in order for emotional connections to occur.

So there you have it; the bare naked facts, all laid out. But who has the upper hand in the orgasm stakes?

From an evolutionary perspective, we are all designed to enjoy the moment, and physiologically speaking, the process to ensure an orgasm occurs is identical in both men and women. The bottom line is, that while differences definitely exist for males and females during those OMG moments, these discrepancies are most likely due to individual factors such as psychology, anatomy and physiology. The best thing you can do to ensure your endings are always as happy as they can possibly be, is to know how best to please yourself, and then let your partner in on the secrets.

 

Analee Gale

Analee Gale is the Food & Health Editor of TBS. Previous to that, she was a freelance writer and editor who has spent so many decades writing about being food and fitness that she sometimes forgets to actually be fit (though she never ever forgets to eat food - hangry is a thing, you know!). Analee made a tree-change from the northern beaches of Sydney, so she now taps out tales from her base in a tiny coastal town in East Gippsland, Victoria.

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